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Look Before You Leap: Mistakes to Avoid During a Divorce

On Behalf of | Jan 11, 2017 | Divorce


A divorce occurs in the U.S. approximately every 36 seconds, which means that almost 2,400 divorces occur every day. It’s safe to say divorce certainly isn’t uncommon in this day and age. But even though it’s a common occurrence overall, most divorcing couples have never actually been through the process firsthand. And that means people make mistakes that seriously impact their divorce proceedings.

To help you avoid some of these mistakes, here are a few things you should never do during the divorce process.

Forgetting to Change the Will
Creating a will with the help of skilled attorneys is an important legal step in your life. But getting divorced doesn’t automatically change that will. You still need to make sure you’re taking the appropriate steps to remove your former spouse from that will – if that’s what you want – to ensure that your last wishes get carried out the way you want them to. You shouldn’t have to be tied to a former spouse even after death does you part.

Opting for an Aggressive Attorney
Hiring an aggressive divorce attorney might seem like a great way to get back at your spouse and get the divorce over with quickly, but the truth is that you could be making the situation worse. It’s important to work with compassionate family lawyers who care about your case, but a collaborative divorce is often much faster and more effective in the long run. In addition, it places less stress on you and your family.

Taking it Out on Your Children
Countless children are involved in divorces every year, and many of them place the blame on themselves. The absolute worst thing you can do during your divorce is take out your frustration and sadness on your kids. Your children should be aware of what’s happening and be able to ask your divorce attorney their questions, but they should never be the scapegoat for negative emotions.

Waiting and Waiting
Waiting until after a holiday or a birthday might seem tempting, but the longer you drag out an unwanted relationship, the worse things are going to get for you. The bandage analogy might be cliche, but that’s only because it’s so apt. Once you’ve made up your mind to move forward with a separation, it’s time to contact a family law firm and start making plans.

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