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Advice is nice, but you have control over your divorce story

On Behalf of | Jun 11, 2019 | Divorce

Relationship issues affect almost every couple. Even if individuals do not realize it, they may be experiencing marital problems that could soon come to be too much to handle. Over time, some parties may choose to end their marriages for various reasons.

If you have recently begun thinking about divorce or recently filed a divorce petition, you may be experiencing a myriad of emotions. You may feel saddened by the fact that your relationship did not turn out as you had once hoped, but you may also feel relieved that you have the chance to start a new chapter in your life.

You write your own story

Though you look forward to this new chapter, you may feel a bit unsure about what steps you should take or where you will go. When it comes to divorce, it is important to remember that your input has a higher value than those around you. Therefore, if friends or family offer you divorce advice, you may want to remember that it may not be the best for your circumstances. Some common advice you may hear includes the following:

  • Try harder to fix the relationship: In some cases, relationships cannot suddenly turn around because one or both of you change. If you have already put your efforts into making the relationship work, trying harder may not be feasible advice.
  • Find someone better: Though the intention behind this advice may be good, it can also come across as rather insulting. It may seem as if your friend or family member is implying that you chose to marry someone “not good” or that you made the wrong choice the first time.
  • Get everything you can from your ex: Vengeful divorce advice is not uncommon because many people have gone through hostile relationships and divorce cases. However, if you and your soon-to-be ex can get along amicably, you may instead want to focus on your case going smoothly rather than using it as a tool for revenge.

It can be difficult to avoid any type of divorce advice when you announce that you want to end your marriage, but it is important to remember that you have the ability to steer where your story goes. In efforts to obtain reliable information that could help you make sound decisions, you may wish to utilize local Virginia legal resources.

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